Category Archives: WFMW

A Novel Gift Idea – WMFW

Edited to add:  Please don’t forget to visit Shannon at Rocks in my Dryer for more Works-For-Me-Wednesday ideas. 

Hello, blog friends!  I’m only popping in just now to ask a favor of all of you, but I hope to return to the blogworld after things around here calm down.  Daughter #1 is getting married, daughter #2 is here for the summer, and I’m up to my eyeballs in real life.  I’ll catch you up on the details later.

Right now, as a bridal shower gift for daughter #1, I’m putting together a book for the bride and groom entitled “Advice for Newlyweds from People Who Aren’t Your Parents.”

I’m asking friends (including you, my blog friends) and family to share some helpful advice for either the bride or the groom or for the couple – whether it be your own wisdom or something someone shared with you that has proven to be invaluable.  You will  be given credit for anything you share, so if it isn’t your own, please cite your source.  It can be a quote, scripture, serious, humorous, things to avoid (like putting toilet tissue upside down on the holder), things you must do (like save money), a sentence, or a paragraph – anything you feel is worthy of passing along to a young married couple.  I’d like to have a balanced perspective, so it would be wonderful if both spouses gave their input.

If you feel comfortable doing so, please use your real name and location (first name only and state only are fine.) 

Thanks for your participation!



Filed under Family, WFMW

It’s beginning to smell a lot like Christmas

We decided this year to buy a pre-lit artificial Douglas fir rather than hassle with a live one. Lindsey said “Aww, I’m gonna miss the smell of a real tree.” And that got me to thinking. We could use pine-scented car air fresheners as ornaments!

She didn’t love the idea (too white trash for her taste), but she did agree that it would be fun to do just for photos – then we’d take them off and hang the real ornaments. So we went out last night and bought the tree. And a 3-pack of air fresheners. Yes we did.

After setting up the tree, I opened one of the air fresheners and hid it in the branches. One is enough, y’all. Our whole house smells like pine, only not overpowering like it would be in the car. So what started as a joke actually turned out to be a pretty good idea. (Works-for-me-Wednesday, anyone? Stop by Shannon’s for more great holiday tips!)

Since I stopped at one “ornament” we didn’t take any photos, but I will have some photos of the real decorations to post later. Hopefully, it won’t be too late for the Tour of Homes.

I’m going to Arkansas tomorrow to bring Sarah back for winter break, and we’ll be spending Christmas at home for the first time ever! Carl and I are excited about having our children gathered around our table for Christmas dinner that we prepared in our own kitchen.

All we need now is one of these.

**Update**  Sarah called me late Wednesday night just as Lindsey and I were getting ready to go and said she’s not coming.  Her dad stands behind her decision.  Our trip has been cancelled.  Please, please pray for my child. 


Filed under Family, Fun, WFMW

Who Are Those Kids Anyway? (WFMW)

Emily, far left, is Carl’s oldest child and the youngest of our three girls. Andrew, far right, is his son and the youngest of the bunch. Sarah, 2nd from left, is my youngest, and Lindsey, 2nd from right, is my firstborn and the oldest of the bunch. I’ve written quite a bit about Lindsey and Sarah, but Emily and Andrew don’t get as much air time, mainly because they don’t cause me as much grief, and also because they only live with us on weekends. We share them with their mother, April, whom I affectionately refer to as my ex-wife-in-law, and her husband, Andy. April and Carl have managed to remain best friends because they both are fiercely devoted to the children they share and are committed to raising them to be healthy and well-adjusted. She and I have become close friends as well as partners in prayer for our children.

Most everyone I know thinks it mighty peculiar that we would even consider being friendly, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. One of the benefits is that there are never any arguments about what’s best for the kids. Discussions are handled out of earshot of the kids, and decisions are agreed upon by the parents. Mom knows best, and we stand behind her decisions. The kids know this, and they rarely try to play one side against the other.

Another benefit is that she knows my husband as well as I do. I see the puzzled expression on your face. While you wipe it off, I’ll explain. Carl is a prodigal. His godly mother raised him and his siblings in church. He accepted Christ as his personal Savior as a child, then somewhere along the way his faith took a nosedive. As his story is not mine to tell, I’ll skip to the heart of the matter. A few years after he and April divorced, she remarried, gave her life to Christ, and led Emily and Andrew to the Lord. She and Andy began praying for Carl, specifically that he would find a godly woman to marry who would be a good influence on him and the kids. (Funny thought: I may not be the answer to his prayers, but his mother and his ex-wife tell me I’m the answer to theirs. That cracks me up.)

So April prayed me into his life, and we are now partners in prayer for his restoration. Here’s the benefit of her knowing him so well: in discussions of matters of faith, she has no problem stepping on his toes or arguing a point with him. She’ll get right up in his face without hesitation and tell it like it is. He rarely gets angry with her, no matter how spirited the discussion, and even if he does, the peace in our home remains intact. I don’t have to say anything. I just nod in agreement with her and in keeping with the principle set forth in 1 Peter 3: 1-2 “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.”

This didn’t start out as a WFMW post, but let me tell you, being sisters in Christ with my ex-wife-in-law works for me!


Filed under Blogging, Family, WFMW

Works for Me: Let Hubby Help

Last Friday after we got home from work, Hubs and I decided to do some last minute tidying before heading out to pick up the kids. I tackled the folding and putting away of the laundry while he ran circles around me doing his chores. He cleaned off the table, vacuumed the living room, fed and watered the dogs and cat, and took out the garbage. He’s fast and efficient. He’s so good, in fact, that I may never find anything he put away.So, we’re in the car on our way to get the kids. When I look over at him, he’s laughing to himself. I ask what’s so funny, and he runs down the list of tasks he accomplished while I folded laundry. Then he said “I was just thinking your next Works-for-Me post should be a picture of me!”

Excellent idea, don’t you think?

Now hurry on over to Shannon’s for more great tips!


Filed under Family, WFMW

Paper or Plastic?

I’m a pack-rat, no doubt about it, and my husband can’t stand it. However, I try to save only items that are reusable, such as plastic shopping bags.

I use them to line small wastebaskets instead of buying the liners by the roll or box. This saves my family a lot of money because we make a lot of trash.

I also keep at least one in each vehicle, especially when traveling with the kids. In our van, I hang one between the driver and passenger seats – just slip a handle over each arm rest, and voila! instant trash receptacle.

When packing suitcases, I slip several in a side pocket to be used for dirty laundry, or muddy shoes, or wet swimsuits . . . you get the idea.

I keep them under the kitchen sink in a larger bag. When the bag is full, it’s time to stop adding to the stash. Extras can be recycled. I have yet to deplete the stash, because each trip to the grocery store or Wal-Mart yields several new bags – free with every purchase.

I’m sure this isn’t a novel idea, but it works for me!


Filed under Blogging, WFMW

Works-For-Me Wednesday

Holy Mama and I must be on the same wavelength, because my tip is also something I try to do when eating out. I pray over my food, but I also try to remember to pray for the people who prepared it, and for the people who serve it. This makes it a lot easier to smile when they get my order wrong.

For some really cool tips, go see Shannon at Rocks In My Dryer. She rocks!


Filed under Prayer, WFMW

Works-For-Me Wednesday

I’ve done this with my girls since they were little, because it works for me. Each child has a laundry basket in her room. This is for her dirty laundry only – towels go in the “community” hamper. When the basket is full, it’s time to do a load. Anything not in the basket will not be washed by me. As a result, we’ve had very few items of clothing come up missing, including socks. Except the items that have migrated away from home in someone else’s overnight bag or somehow forgot to put themselves back in their luggage, and the ones they’ve loaned out or given away or traded, but we don’t wanna talk about that right now.

They’ve been doing their own laundry now for years, ever since they grew tall enough to reach the washer settings.

This has saved me loads of time and energy (pun intended).

Got a handy-dandy tip you’d like to share? Wanna see more great ideas? Go see Shannon at Rocks In My Dryer – you’ll love her site!


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